I am naturally pessimistic. I am persistent and I keep trying and trying and working to change whatever I think needs to be changed, but my default setting is pessimism. I feel I was born like that – I have certainly been like that for as long as I can remember. I’m not sad or even miserable most of the time but I usually think everything will go belly-up as opposed to thinking it’ll all work out. It’s as if inside me I have a permanently raised eyebrow…
As a result, I have always found being told to be positive very hard to take. It is just too simplistic for my convoluted, pessimistic inner cynic to accept. And anyway, I don’t believe that formulaic approaches work for us human beings – not really. Not in the long run. These ‘quick fix’ formulae might apply a veneer of positivity – or even civilisation – but unless we take ideas deep inside ourselves the fundamental reality of who we are doesn’t really change. With any pressure we flip back into our default position – whatever that may be – and all the veneer cracks and falls away.
Which is why I found this video interesting. It is the first time I have ever really seen a simple bespoke approach to being positive. It suggests a technique but not a one-size-fits-all technique and so it just might work in my (pessimistic) opinion.
But even if your eyebrows are in your hairline and you don’t think it’ll work, you might still find it interesting.
Have a look.